Pregnancy // We're Having a Baby {!!}

December 15, 2018


'We've been keeping a little secret... The BEST early Christmas present we could ever ask for. Coming summer 2019 and already so, so loved 💞'.

If you follow me on Instagram then you might have already seen this last night. And I'm so, so happy and grateful to have got to this stage and be able to share our news at last.
Keeping it a secret for these past few months has been so hard, but also at the same time kind of nice for a while to just keep it to Ben & I along with some close friends and family. But you know me, as a chronic over-sharer on Instagram/using this blog to document our lives, it is amazing to now be able to talk about it! And have this incredible community to share our journey with and I'm sure ask for all the advice.

I've got lots of blog posts already mostly drafted that I've been writing over the past few months, from right back when we first started taking the first steps, to the loneliness of trying to conceive {and not wanting to tell anyone} to wondering if it would ever happen to falling pregnant and not being able to stop smiling ever since. I want to share everything from how we decided when to tell our parents to the magic of that first scan to how I've felt this first trimester and our plans for the next few months of pregnancy and beyond. It's funny how I was desperate for this first trimester to be over, partly so it would feel more real and I wouldn't feel like a fraud anymore - or feel as sick! and I'm kind of hoping it will still go fairly quickly until say around 20 weeks to get a proper bump and be able to feel the baby kick. But at the same time, I just want to savour every second and soak up this magical time. We, of course, cannot wait until the summer to meet our baby {which we've named Baby Bee right now!} but I know that it will be here before we know it and so, as long as I hopefully continue to feel well, I want it to slow right down and savour every little thing. So far I'm loving being pregnant and cannot wait to see what the next trimester will bring. 

I've added over on my Instagram stories today one of those 'ask me anything' boxes if you have anything specific you'd like to ask me about pregnancy/babies for blog posts. I know that all I've wanted to read recently on blogs or listen to on podcasts have been completely frank and honest accounts of trying for a baby/how people felt etc so I hope to share the same. 



This was the happy, happy day that we found out. <3 excuse my no make up selfie...


This was just a short post for now but I can't wait to be sharing more over the coming weeks, although possibly mostly after Christmas now with alll of the turkey eating and friends/family time that's ahead over the next couple of weeks! 10 days to go! I'll start a new section of this blog for all things Motherhood related. 

And thank you, thank you, thank you for all of the incredibly kind messages and comments so far on Instagram since last night. I'm overwhelmed but my husband & I are both incredibly grateful and have read them all.

R <3 {and bump!} xx 

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    1. Hi Stacey, it wasn't in April that we decided we wanted a baby. It was long before that but that was just the time in which we started to prepare to try for a baby due to previous commitments. Not that I should have to explain myself anyway. I'm well aware of the often long, scary, awful times that many people sadly go through with IVF, my friends and some family included. BUT this is about my personal experience. I write in other posts, not yet published, about why it is I feel this way. There are personal reasons for me feeling like that. And I won't sugar coat things or pretend that I didn't feel that way because I'll never be able to please everyone. I know this is a hugely emotive subject for many people but I imagine that if they're going through fertility struggles they wouldn't want to be reading my blog about our pregnancy and my excitement so far anyway? So please don't question if I felt lonely or not, every story is different and we shouldn't be comparing. Yes, perspective is very useful knowing that of course in the scheme of things we didn't have to worry, but it's still our own experience.

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  2. Huge congratulations again to you both. However long it takes to conceive, when you’re going through it, it’s all consuming. Enjoy this special time. Rachel (rachelj_hearts) xxx

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    1. Thank you so much Rachel, love chatting to you on Instagram. You're right, it is all consuming especially as I'm such an all or nothing kind of girl/obsessive kind of personality. It very quickly took over which I've heard is similar for a lot of women. x

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  3. Congratulations. To all of you. This is such a special time. Enjoy every moment and take peoples opinions with a pinch of salt. It is all about you and your beautiful family. As a mum of two girls, I can't begin to describe the amazing moments you have waiting in your future. Xx

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  4. It was just an observation, feedback on your post. You didn't nor did I ask you to explain yourself. You have however confirmed you only starting trying in April so again, from a medical point of view you had absolutely no issues in conceiving. Congratulations again and my comment was in no way malicious, your entering a very controversial topic so people will speak out. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

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  5. As someone going through IVF/infertility issues, it doesn’t offend me one bit that you felt lonely whilst you were trying to conceive - I feel solidarity with you because no matter how long it takes, it’s a scary, emotional, terrifying, exciting and lonely time! The length of time is completely and totally irrelevant. Everyone goes through a rollercoaster when they conceive whether it’s unexpected and a surprise, takes a month or 6 or 6 years. And it is a lonely thing because as a society we don’t talk about it enough. I am SO happy for you Rebecca (and Ben) and I know you’ll be awesome parents... and on a totally superficial note I can’t wait to see how you style your bump and do the nursery! Will be totally stealing your ideas for when it hopefully happens for us <3 xxx (Lucy, or @pinaforesandpeonies on insta)

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  6. I'm looking forward to reading your other posts from the last few months, I've been enjoying following Lily Pebbles and Carly Rowena's very real, down to earth journeys throughout their pregnancies. I am glad that you are going to write honestly and not sugar coat things, it's so much more interesting & helpful to hear about things from your real point of view and experiences rather than just the edited instagram highlights :) Congratulations x

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  7. I completely understand the loneliness and worry you must have felt - it actually only took 3 months for my husband and I to conceive our daughter (now 20 months) but I was pretty obsessive about it and went full-on into the prep, worrying if we would conceive (I’d had a couple of abdominal scans in the past that highlighted potential issues which thankfully turned out to be nothing). Looking back I obviously had nothing to worry about as it only took a few months, but at the time they felt long, stressful and lonely, which I have felt guilty about! Congratulations and enjoy this special time.

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